I guess I am just looking for some aspect of my life that has remained the same and I can't find anything...
So I have been super achy for the last couple of weeks and have tried a bazillion stretches and back flips to relieve some of the pain. The sad thing is that this seems like a pain I can't stretch or adjust away. Mostly my hips are on fire but there also seems to be a giant gas bubble lodged in my stomach that just wants to chill. So between moaning on the floor and gulping fiber supplements I am pretty pathetic.
Gray is gone ALL DAY...all day (14 hours) and is always ready to party when he has time which my body does not exactly agree with. So we have been hanging out a lot at home which just encourages me to slowly freak out about everything baby.
We are actually quite the pair...baby and me. We sleep, we eat, we try to exercise and then we sleep again. In between we browse websites for boy names that we like (no luck) and try to find cheap deals and wheels (stroller) that are somewhat affordable. And then we cry fake crocodile tears because everything is so expensive.
So to make me more of a modern mother let me know what are the absolute essentials you need for a new born. What should I absolutely buy brand new (besides diapers) and what are some things that I can get used? I mean there is so much... clothes, blankets, pacifiers, bottles, swaddle wrap thingys, bouncy chair, bassinet, baby bed, stroller, car seat, shoes, breast pump, bottle warmer, diaper pail, rocking chair, swing... and that is just to start. So fill me in... I am kinda overwhelmed!
PS I do have a pic of me at like 21 weeks or so. I just forgot where I put the camera cord...and the camera!
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ok you crack me up. and just to let you know the tears don't stop, i think i cried more the first month of emilys life then i have ever cried in my intire life. so gray will have to get used to that. as for baby stuff i was so not prepaired we had a crib and some boy clothes from my sister and a changed table from my boss but other than that we didn't have anything my advise have some diapers, wipes, some pjs and a blanket and a lot of klenex. your friends and family will shower you with cute gifts to fill in the holes.
it is hard being pregnant... really hard. I hate those woman who say they felt great the whole pregnancy and really enjoyed the experience cause for most of us it is a real struggle. Try a chiropractor for the back pain, eat raisin bran everyday (sometimes twice a day), don't exercise too hard core (walking is enough) and sleep and relax as much as you need to. It is okay to cry (even if there aren't actual tears), you are pregnant and hormonal.... everyone will understand.
You can buy almost everything used to save money. Better yet get family/friends to give you stuff for free. You MUST buy new soothers, bottle nipples, breast pump as yucky germs can spread. Ask those who would like to get you gifts to give money so you can get something large and new so you have something special like a new crib or rocking chair.
You won't be poor forever.
Oh, Diana!! It will all come together...Yes, diapers brand new and I bet you will get a bunch of stuff that you need at your baby Shower. You will love your baby boy and the tears will keep coming! I would love to see a pic of your baby bump!!:)
Don't buy anything till you have all your showers, then you can fill in the blanks. Anything that goes in that babies mouth needs to be new though... Less is more. Seriously!
You are too funny! I thought Jen's comment was funny about women that love being prego because I LOVE being prego... it's the first 3 months of the kids life that suck along with losing ALL and I mean ALL of your hair around the babies 5 month mark! Anyway, I agree with The Brandley's don't buy anything until after your showers (except an outfit or two because you're the mom you have to buy the first outfit.) Most people will give you clothes so don't waste your money on them. Also, don't buy a breast pump until after the baby comes. I would buy a used bassinet because baby can sleep in it for at least 4 months and that would give you more saving time for a crib. I wanted to have a brand new crib, mattress and changer since I was planning on having a few kids, but that is up to you (there are a lot of nice used cribs) You HAVE to buy a new car seat though. They are only good for 5 years (so they say) and you don't know what has gone on in someone else's car seat. I have more advice if you want it... :)
Ha ha... Oh you are not alone! I felt like that all three times. Weepy, achy, AND barfy. It really does all come together once baby comes though. You'll be fine! Renee is right about the showers. Definitely register and include a few bigger items in case a few people want to go in on them together.
Buy baby's coming home from the hospital outfit. That one is so fun! Then worry about the rest later.
Hang in there, I can't wait to see him!!
Good luck!!
I love that uou blog about the good, the bad, and the ugly!! I was not prepared for some of the gross side effects of having kids before I had Anna so I share them with kidless friends so that they can be prepared!
I definately agree not to buy too much till after your shower but don't completely deprive yourself of the fun!!
Pregnancy IS rough.. And not to be mean, but it only gets worse! :) But you can buy lots of stuff used. I know here in Lethbridge, there is new and used sites on facebook where people post their stuff. I have seen very nice, close to brand new cribs, swings chairs.. you name it! Or maybe see if there are some second hand stores where you live.. but i do think you should buy your carseat brand new. They expire fast. (make sure you check for the expiry date!) and maybe have your family and friends go together to buy the bigger stuff... Or gift cards combined together can always help!! I hope you start feeling a bit better soon!! :)
www.babysteals.com they have 2 deals a day on brand name baby things for 50% off.
Diana I totally understand the aches and pains. I would go to a chiropractor. I only survived my back pain because I went weekly. The first time you hold your little boy all the pain will be worth it. Pregnancy is an emotional roller coaster and husbands just need to be patient and love you in spite of yourself. I would get anything you can used but the car seat. I was able to find a good car seat/stroller combo at walmart.com. I really hope everything goes well with your remaining weeks. I am excited to see pictures of your little guy.
Oh the joys. Im glad im almost done :) that wasnt very nice of me. If $ is tight skip the bassinet and crib, check craigslist for a good pack n play that has the bassinet, your set for a good 7 months. Yep the in the mouth stuff needs to be new but that is pretty inexspensive. Hold off on a breast pump- you might not need one, you might not be able to nurse and your insurance might cover it (ours did). I would say your absolutes are a carseat, a place for baby to sleep, diapers and clothes. Even a stroller could wait for a bit. It is SO easy to get sucked into thinking you need all this baby stuff- but you dont. We didnt have a change table with # 1 and managed just fine, and when we got one with # 2 we hardley used it because we were use to diaper changes on the floor or couch or bed. So ignore all the STUFF, focus on the basics. I really hope you feel better, but well you just might not. I think ive had a forever left bum cheek aching muscle for 8 months. Ive accepted it. The little boy will be well worth it! Also- Ill share fave names; Crew, Nixon (we can use nixon because we are Canadians and to us it isnt a dirt bag name)Boston- getting slightly over done, Knox.. anyways, good luck with it all!!!
I got alomost everything used, except for pacifers, bottles and some clothes as gifts. Other than that EVERYTHING was used. The crib, the toys, majority of clothes, blankets, burp clothes,stroller, car seat, ect. I am super cheap and if it is good condition then I used it! I am sorry you are in so much pain. At least this is temporary. It might not seem like it now, but it is all worth it when you get to hold your precious child! :)
You're getting lots of good advice. My only advice is look on Craigslist for lots of the big things. And get a pack and play with the bassinet insert on top (find one used of course), that way you don't have to have a bulky bassinet to store someday. Then again make sure you have room in your bedroom for it. We should go check out the new consignment store called Pixies (I think that's the name) and see what's there.
All of the above is good advice. I am with Trish. Craigslist for everything big (You live in an area where most people only have one or two babies meaning stuff is hardly used) and if you have room, try to get a pack'n'play instead of a bassinet. If you do get a bassinet, make sure you get one that is sturdy but can fold up for storage. I also like the already mentioned idea of waiting to get the crib. You will probably sleep baby with you for at least two months--no need to have a crib right away, unless you really want one now. :)
And remember what we talked about--attitude. Yeah sure, you feel like poo and your body hurts. If you want it to be terrible, it will be terrible. If you keep a good attitude, it will be much better! Hang in there--the best is yet to come!
Okay, so everyone has said pretty great things...but of COURSE I "need" to add my 2 cents. Okay, aches and pains, I'm sorry but they will continues and like I've said before, you have every right to be cranky/cry-y. You're pregnant, dangit! I always said that I had absolutely no control over my body or emotions anymore and I still stand by my word. Welcome to the world of pregnancy/motherhood. Like Kendall said, the first few months are hard too...not trying to freak you out, just want you to be prepared. Regardless of how you feel just know it WILL get better. (Sometimes I find myself chanting that throughout the day...) And, you will make it through all the hard times! I promise!
Okay, as for the stuff...honestly, the only things you NEED are diapers, wipes, somewhere for baby to sleep and some clothes. Like one of your friends said, you can just use a pack-n-play with a bassinet and that will have you covered for a long time so you can save up for a crib. If you do get a crib (used) you should get a new mattress. Also, don't get ANYTHING until after your shower(s)- honestly anything we didn't get at our shower we got hand-me-down from friends. You'd be surprised the things people are hanging on to and want to get rid of. Since we don't have a lot of money right now I gladly accepted all the stuff I got. Initially I was prideful and wanted to buy all the stuff new and exactly how I wanted it, but then I just sucked it up and realized how blessed we were to have such generous people who love us.
Last of all just know, EVERYTHING will be okay. I promise!! You'd be surprised at how little you actually NEED for a baby. The rests are just wants that you can really do without.
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